Netflix and Non-Verbal Communication

A majority of our human behavior is displayed using non-verbal communication. Examples of this include gestures, eye-contact, facial expressions, posture, and the way we move our bodies. Research shows that there are distinct differences between feminine and masculine non-verbal communication. For example, women tend to smile more than men and often mirror their conversational partners. Men tend to take up more space with their bodies. 

But as a clinician, I need to be careful with reinforcing gender roles that may not be relevant in today’s society.  

There’s no cookie-cutter approach for teaching non-verbal communication. Think about it like this: Scarlett Johansson and Oprah Winfrey are both women, yet their communication styles are so different. The same goes for Dwayne Johnson and Johnny Depp. 

Voice and non-verbal communication are interconnected, which is why I work with my clients not only on their voice, but their physical appearance. It’s a team effort, an exploration to what feels authentic for you. 

Start to think about your body when doing these things:

How do you read a magazine?

Brush your hair behind your ear?

How do you take a sip of water? 

What do you do with your hands while speaking?

How are your legs positioned while sitting in a waiting room? 

Next time you’re watching a movie or television show, take some notes.

What non-verbal communication skills are you observing in actors? How are they moving their body? How are they walking or getting into their car? What do you find feminine or masculine? What feels authentic?

References

Adler, R., Hirsch, S., & Pickering, J. (Eds.). (2019). Voice and communication therapy for the transgender/gender diverse client: A comprehensive clinical guide (3rd ed.). San Diego, CA: Plural.

American Speech-Language Hearing Association (n.d.) Voice and Communication Services for Transgender and Gender Diverse Populations (Practice Portal). Retrieved May 1, 2020 from www.asha.org/Practice-Portal/Professional-Issues/Transgender-Gender-Diverse-Voice-and-Communication/.

Wilson, G. (2016) Body Language. MFJ Book Fine Communications.